Notes
God wants us to value relationships ..getting along with each other is a mark of spiritual maturity ...must be peacemakers ...the children of God ...very hard work ..it is not avoidance of conflict. ....not running from problems or pretending they don't exist ..that is cowardice
...not appeasement
Restoring relationships .........
Talk to God first ..pray...the other person might change ..you can't fulfill a need only God can provide
Take the initiative ...God expects us to make the first move ..abandon your offering and make peace first ..make it right before worship ...delay makes matters worse ....acting quickly reduces spiritual damage ...time and place important ...not rushed or tired
Sympathise with their feelings...listen...pay close attention LISTEN...feelings are not always true and logical ...... patience comes from wisdom ...absurd the anger ...as did Christ
Confess your part of the conflict ..accept responsibility for your mistakes ..take the log out of your own eye ...confess your part in the issue
Attack the problem not the person ...don't be consumed with fixing the blame ... Choose words wisely ...soft answer better than a sarcastic one ..you are never persuasive when you are abrasive
Cooperate as much as possible...peace costs ...Pride, self-centredness ... Compromise and show preference to their needs
Emphasise reconciliation not resolution ... Reconciliation focuses on the relationship, resolution on the problem.... The problem may loose significance
God wants unity not uniformity ...diamonds can look different from different angles ...we can walk arm in arm without seeing eye to eye ..reconciliation means bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue
Notes
Not really fallen out with anyone, but good advice if I do ... Could be useful for work situations
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